The baby has not been proved to be D Negative, as the DAT is positive. Until the cause of the DAT is fully understood (you are correct in saying that it could be as a result of an ABO incompatibility, or an antibody directed against a low prevalence antigen, but it could equally be anti-D, or a combination of any of these causes), or that the baby is expressing a weak or Partial D, which cannot be proved or disproved while the DAT remains positive. Under such circumstances, the mother should be offered anti-D immunoglobulin (as a belt and braces exercise), and if the offer of anti-D immunoglobulin is accepted by the mother, you are duty bound to make certain that the standard dose is sufficient. If this is not sufficient, a calculation should be performed to ensure that a sufficient dose is given.
THERE IS NO ROOM OR EXCUSE FOR GUESSING IN ANY AREA OF BLOOD TRANSFUSION.